The Pain Inside!

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For Wednesday August 28th 2013

Between Us Only!

The Pain Inside!

• A mirror shows the outside, but never the pain on the inside! – Anon
• Turn your wounds into wisdom! – Oprah Winfrey

The Pain Inside is an Al Jazeera Television World series programme. Al Jazeera explains – After military service, many young Israelis travel abroad to distance themselves from distressing experiences. In Israel, military service is compulsory for most people over the age of 18, with men serving three years and women two. Exemption from military service is a hotly debated issue in Israeli society.

Many feel that military service is a matter of family obligation and loyalty to their ‘homeland’ For some, joining the army is about the connections they make. Some employers also hesitate to recruit Israelis who refuse to serve in the army.

Following their army stint, tired and stressed, thousands of ex-soldiers travel to India and elsewhere to party and hang out with each other – it is a rite of passage for many. As Israelis do not need a visa to enter Europe so many young Israelis also emigrate to cities in Europe, such as Berlin.

Nowadays, around 30,000 of them live in Germany’s capital, many having chosen to leave all the restrictions and constraints of life in Israel behind.
Other Israelis become conscientious objectors, these are people who say they understand what the word ‘occupation’ really means, and therefore refuse to serve in the Israeli military. For many, life in Israel – with its military conscription and occupation – is turning young people into what one Israeli interviewee describes as “monsters in a distorted reality”, revealing deep psychological issues which remain unaddressed.

There is a sense of a lost generation – of people who are deeply troubled and alienated from their own humanity. People talk of living in a “bubble” in Tel Aviv and the future of Israel “hanging by a thread”. The film reveals this agitation in Israel, at times manifesting itself through exodus, which is the very opposite of the Zionist dream.

• We live in the Middle East but we refuse to accept the fact that we are part of it. I think this pretty much indicates that there is an identity crisis in Israel – a Gabriel Moses, exempted from military service

In my Book One – Between Us Only! Article – ‘Lost Blood’ – I recall the incident of my first encounter with one Israeli boy – a Diplomatic student in the High School I used to attend in that distant land. Quote – That ended the friendship, though the day he left he took my address. I never expected to get any response from him.

Years later he sent me a small note in the same place – it just said ¬ – Thank you for trying to make me feel welcome and as a friend! I still remember your words. I hope one day I can invite you to my country and there will be peace amongst our peoples and that we can be Real First Cousins!

In my holiday stay in a hotel in Zanzibar a few years back – I was approached by this sort of ‘foreign Arabic’ looking pretty girl asking about a certain place she and her friends wanted to visit – thinking I would know the place as I was speaking the local lingo to the hotel staff. When I told her I do not know the place – she was very much surprised till I explained that I came from Oman. She then said to me – So you are Arab? I said – I think so! In that case – she retorted – Then I should not be speaking to you!. Because I am Jewish! The last part was in perfect Arabic.
So I replied – I think conversely – because we are cousins – and should be talking to each other! That is a new one – she retorted – I will tell all my friends back at home on this! She and her parents actually originally came from Yemen! She too was in the ‘The Pain Inside’ group – and narrated to me how she had helped a Lebanese old woman during the Lebanese invasion. The shock on the old woman’s face was not the war – but ‘the uniform she was wearing’!

When I was a young boy and during the colonial times in that distant island – the District Commissioner then used to speak in Arabic to my late Father. This surprised the locals very much – until they came to realise that his origins were also Jewish!

In my latest book Wipe My Tears! – http://www.myownmajid.com – I said – The book also carries many family, offices and human based articles that are applicable to us all – as bottom line we are the same human being in that same a person – with the same needs, wants and fears – devoid of race, religion, creed and colour! Many of the articles are highly emotive and heart rendering – and that is the reason of adopting the title of Wipe My Tears!

Some more ‘The Pain Inside’ Footnote sayings: –

• Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it – J. K. Rowling
• Life is a pain! Anyone who says differently is selling something else – William Goldman
• Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength – The Dalai Lama
• There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds – Laurel Hamilton
• One thing that you cannot hide is when you are crippled inside – John Lennon

Take Care!

By: Majid Al-Suleimany

Things Have Not Really Changed!

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For Sunday August 25th 2013

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Between Us Only!

Things Have Not Really Changed!

People Are Just Still Misbehaving!

Things Have Simply Not Really Changed!

• Do not bite the hand that feeds you – to end licking the boot that will kick you!
• Maybe you should consider our place. Here we do respect the learned elders like you! – My Books USA Publishers.

Thursday – August 15th 2013.

This week I had tried my level best – and avoided to get embroiled into an argument with one – sorry to say it to those of my friends! – An Indian Top Sales Marketing guy – a Services Provider that I have been using for a number of years. Related to my books distribution in Oman, I have given them good business in the past – and the relationships were to mutual advantages, anyway!

There is no point to continue banging my head against brick walls – and just making it swollen and red in the process! Five years ago, I had formally reported this same guy to his Indian Superiors – and I went so far to report him formally to The Company Owners – who are Omanis – acknowledged and well known family run business. But instead of siding with the customers – and fellow Omanis – they tend to side more with their own staff – even if rude and misbehaving ones too – like this one too!

The person promised to change and behave – but simply has not! He just feels that he is beyond reproach – and nothing can touch him in any way! One would be even excused to think that he may be doing the ‘company’s dirty business’ under the cloak and face mask! In treating even qualified, experienced and professional Omanis with complete disdain and contempt. The mind just boggles of how he treats the Junior Younger Omanis under him.

These kind of things cannot be allowed to continue because always they lead to bigger things – as we have seen lately live on television.

The other day I was seeing this traumatic depressing television news coverage of a young Syrian girl of about 5 years of age – desperately gasping out ‘I am alive’ – leave me alone – unsaid! – As she wanted to cover herself from prying television cameras. It was so distressing and disheartening – to see how fast the girl could grow up in such nasty awful experiences.

We see these things – do we change? The answer is simply – No! Until the next time – if there will be such a chance then!

I then told the person that I am collecting back all my books still with you – and please keep them ready for my collection. What is the use and point, anyway? I have written two books in Management in these issues – http://www.myownmajid.com – and several column articles before! I do not know how long these things will continue – before there is a breaking point?

Perhaps it may come sooner than what we had envisaged! People should not be surprised in this!

In my book theme – A Cry For Help! – Published in 2009 – I had said – Addressing the increased extremism, fundamentalism and lack of forbearance in the working environments…. Growing radicalization of local staff…..Unhappy dissatisfied staff ….bad treatment of staff – especially by some (few) expatriates ….etc! My mistake forgetting to add …and customers and clients too!

Truthfully and honestly sincerely speaking – the problems with us Omanis are that we are very welcoming, respecting and esteeming to ‘The Invited Guests’ in our country – unalike even others near us! The few of them especially feel it is okay for these unruly unneeded behaviours and attitudes – and to in forgetting the famous expression – Biting the hand that feeds you …and ending as proved in many cases – of ‘licking the boot that kicks you’!!

I am not a Political Scientist or Expert – but since last week I have never ever felt so sad in my life ever before – because all the things I have said and cautioned about have come to pass – and I feel so sad, unhappy and miserable to keep saying – I have said it, before! Or I told you so! I tried to say the very same things – diplomatically and tactfully – in my many articles – notably last month – The Role of Advisors! The article can be found here!

Even at the dangers of losing something so nice and good that you had never had before or expected – and something you should strive to protect, defend and let it grow and prosper – the evilness and selfishness in people will just not change – even if they know their actions – or inactions – would lead to what, where and when!

I have worked in other countries in GCC – and I have met many ex worked in Oman expatriates. Though they are getting ‘better salary packages, perks and benefits than what they got here – the one thing that they miss the most – is the ‘warm welcome and esteem’ that expatriates – the so-called ‘invited guests’ – have got in Oman. This particular aspect they missed the most.

Frankly, I have seen it live too being practiced – the opposite of what we Omanis are doing! In my role of Human Resources – I had even protested in ‘defending and protecting’ schemes – and I was rudely and abruptly awakened by those doing these things against the expatriates – Brother – you are not in Oman now! That speaks volumes of what we offer and give here – to say the very least! It eventually even costed me my job!

The main problem is that some expatriates know very well that they will not get the positions and levels they are in now – if they were back at home! They may try to kid and fool – but they are fooling no one – but themselves more! I keep repeating and stressing the word FEW! This definitely has gone to their heads – and have made them contemptuous, proud and conceited.

That is the sad and bitter truth of the matter – human beings as they are in reality!

Conversely, I do not know what we Omanis may do – if we enmasse are to go and work in high influential positions in other places? How we would react, interface and behave?

As Bishop Desmond Tutu was saying to Sir Robert Frost in the interview – I do not hate the individuals who propagated, promoted and practiced Apartheid – because as an African – I do not know what their minds were really thinking? Perhaps if I was one of them – I could be doing the same – or maybe even worse! Wise words, indeed!

May Allah God Protect and Preserve us all – from His Anger and Fury – Amin.

With sincere and due apologies,

By:

Majid Al-Suleimany

Date – August 23, 2013

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Morsi: A Question of Management?

Morsi: A Management Issue?

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Or more sinister forces at work and play?
• I live in a posh area – I have a big villa – I have a good job – I drive a posh car – and my children go to the best expensive school – But I simply have no freedom! – Demonstrating Woman Against Army Take Over to Al Jazeera TV
• Famous East African Saying – Those that destroy the homes of others – will have God Destroy their homes in return!
August 19, 2013

Outpoint – Before I start on the topic.

I will try my level best to keep this article simple and apolitical – though I am still trying hard to understand and comprehend how GCC countries like KSA and UAE had supported the ‘military coup’ in Egypt – and even after massacres of innocent Muslims too – and despite the fact – whether we like to accept it or not – and whether we like Muslim Brotherhood or not – and of a first time elected government under Morsi after years in Egypt under Mubarak et al. This fact cannot be denied under any circumstances.

If it is a question of removing an elected government because of ‘gross mistakes violations and errors of judgment ‘ – then one can imagine of a lot of military coups would possibly take place in a number of places – using the same terms and references – as plausible strong reason and excuse?

In my article – Episode 14 – ‘Advice To A New CEO’ – dated August 27, 2003 in Book One – Between Us Only! – and over 10 years ago- I had said – Quote – .

 The new CEO? Welcome Aboard! – …. But don’t change a thing! – The worst thing a new CEO can do is to sideline or marginalize those who have been actually running the establishment for many years (some very long plus 20 years!) and even before the CEO had joined. Key words are esteem, ethics, professionalism, esteem, respect and reciprocal good treatment!! And also leading by good examples and in leadership demonstrations.
DON’T CHANGE A THING! – In its October 2002 issue, Harvard Business Review – HBR (Ideas with impact), noted famous Management Magazine notes the following in one of its topics – New CEO, Welcome Aboard (But Don’t Change A Thing)” – some quotes: –
 “The folks at ……… were thrilled when they got a new CEO with fresh, bold ideas – until she started to act on them”
 (Old CEO to NEW) “Everyone here is in the slow lane. They are all wedded to the way things have always been done. You have to understand, this is a very old company. You may need to pull people along more slowly to make sure you don’t end up tearing the place apart”
 “She (New CEO) – if she is not clear with this team, she’ll be no better with the next. She should not make personnel (staff) changes until she has given the current team a chance.
This is a commonly held Management Concept for Success for the CEO – especially the new one!  The role of the Chief Executive Officer – including especially The New!

Refer to any Management expert or books on Management, the one fundamental advice that is always given to a new CEO or Official in joining an organisation, is never to ‘rock the boat’ on day one of joining! – However, good sincere and genuine your intentions may be!

In his book ‘7 habits of highly effective peoples’, Dr. Stephen Convey, a Management ‘guru’, says that in addition of being proactive and think win/win, ‘it is very important to seek first to understand and then to be understood’. Others are Begin with the end in mind; Put first things first; Synergize, and sharpen the sword (socially, spiritually, physically & mentally).
Other references and quotes –

‘It is impossible for anyone to perform well in these continually changing roles without help from his subordinates in the organisation – he needs to have a well – informed objective understanding and supportive sounding board with whom he can freely discuss his doubts, fears and aspirations’.
– Robert L. Katz ‘Skills of an Effective Administrator’ – Three Skills Approach (Technical Skill, Human Skill and Conceptual Skills).

‘The first duty – and the continuing responsibility of the Business Manager (CEO) are “to strive for the best possible economic results from the resources employed or available – by Peter F. Drucker – another Management guru.
Good Ideas – Bad Implementation Practices!

Where have we heard this one before? Many establishments, some of them international Conglomerates, have collapsed because a new CEO was installed who wanted to make fast, rapid and drastic changes, without first getting to know the establishment well and its peoples, and what made them tick.
Success may have seemed to come with immediate effects (with the usual ‘colourings’ of press and for coverage) but in the medium to long term, the consequences are detrimental to the healthy running of the establishment and in its eventual early collapse and demise.

The worst thing a new CEO can do is to sideline or marginalize those who have been actually running the establishment for many years (some very long plus 20 years!) and even before the CEO had joined. When you transgress such a group, you are not only asking for trouble, but also putting your own neck on the line (shooting oneself in the foot too!).

The resentment, antipathy, anger, fury, animosities, frustrations and disappointments felt by such peoples (maybe results not visible immediately) but eventually can cause havoc and disaster to the organisation.

Many CEOs do a fundamental (grave) error of judgement when they remove (enmasse especially) the ‘old guards’ and put in their place ‘new likeable faces of his own’ choice into positions of power and authority. Not only these old guards pretend and act to go along with the changes, but they sure take aim and target to ensure the ‘introduced changes’ are sabotaged and killed from within.

They do these carefully and viciously, because the least thing they want are to be found out and be caught in the process. The process is exacerbated when you have still in-fighting within this group too (some at even senior levels), but who will attempt to come together against the new CEO and his intended changes per se!

For the short span of time and duration, things may even seem to work with new creativity, ideas and innovation coming from those ‘replacing new bright younger brains’ – but eventually we are all human beings, and the fear and dread of what may turn up next gets the better of all of us!. This is especially when the new CEO keeps asking ‘for more and more’ ideas and innovations to keep him in the limelight and in coverage! It puts a lot of pressures on the work force, with the ‘bubble bursting’ in the final analysis.

The ‘new blood’ start to feel (as they are all human too) that if an ‘uncle’ or ‘elder relative or fellow worker’ was so easily sidelined and marginalized in his duties and in his responsibilities (he saw it too, perhaps they came to his office to ‘cry’ too), why the same cannot be matted out instead to them eventually and in the course of time.

This creates uncertainties, apprehensions and worries and instead of being a morale booster, actually turns up to be quite the opposite in results, outcome and in consequences.

The new CEO may find support and encouragement from the Board of Directors and in the Chairman, but when morale, motivation and performance and profits (for which results are all paramount oriented and based) fall, ‘heads will definitely roll, however, they liked you before!’

In this scenario, the CEO will be required to change his outlook, focus orientation and in pursuits. He has to do this immediately if he is to survive. Otherwise it will mean that he will need to ‘Update and Validate’ his CV in pursuit of other new job venue and opportunities – if any – especially if history will record his ‘killing off and collapsing’ an otherwise operation of a successful and profitable establishment (killing the goose that laid golden eggs) – be it that there were even a lot to be desired to be modified or changed in the old structure of the establishment.
Continued – I had said – It is also in Countries and in Politics!

These things do not only happen to establishments but even to countries (example recently in Iraq and in Peru – Article written August 2003.

This situation goes on to even to the highest office in some lands. A new President is elected by popular vote- he gets a popular rating. Greater percentages of the population have voted him in. So what is the first thing he does? He removes all those in top positions (early retirement is a good option!), and puts his crony friends in their places. He feels now confident that he has the support of all his friends.

He removes all the top brass professional Generals and puts his cronies in their places instead. History then proves the rest – one of his most reliable and trusted General ‘takes over the helm of leadership’. The man ends up in jail, or he is allowed to ‘abdicate’ if he is so lucky. The ‘cut outs’ professional but not trusted other Generals ‘shake their heads in sadness and disbelief – perhaps if they were still there, this would not have happened!

The General is a human too. If he saw his peers sidelined, what guarantee is there that it will not happen to him – especially in a disagreement or confrontation module with the boss!

In life we all go on to do the same things, at our own levels in life. As the CEO, we remove the assistants we think we cannot trust, or move them to positions of less significance but of grand newly designed titles – ‘Head of IT Development and Implementation’, or ‘Strategic Management Business Head’ (early retirement here too is a good option!).
‘Live Personal Examples’ per se!

In my life career, I had one Company Director who wanted to make drastic and rapid changes on day one he came in! As is my usual self, I always try to maintain a balance of being pragmatic and proactive vis-à-vis to follow formal instructions (for my next pay cheque), so I had the ‘guts and the audacity’ (catching the bull by its horns, so to speak!) and to tell him that these changes he wanted would not augur well with affected staff, especially local.

I had also cautioned him of the ‘consequences of making many changes rapidly and in a short tenure of time. It is not only peoples getting lost, but the antipathy, cynicism and the disenfranchise elements emanating from the ‘affected Staff’ per se.
Though initially he was taken back by this response from the good self, but to his credit – being an educated, proactive, and pragmatic and highly profile person, he was able to see my views and points, and more importantly the dire dangers and consequences that he wanted to drive us all through.

Some of my friends thought I was ‘naïve and a fool’ to risk my career (putting a rope around your own neck to hanged!). “You could have been sidelined / marginalised or even be terminated’, my good friends advised, ‘why bother? He wants it that way, just do it – it is his own funeral!

Not many senior peoples inhigh echelon positions take kindly to be “confronted” by those junior or lower to them, and these “brave and courageous’ peoples found too late that their careers were not only dented, but faced an early death. Early Retirement is what ‘the game is nowadays!’

This Director – we still correspond, at least at the end of the year. He keeps referring to me as ‘a friend’, but also as ‘a best example of a risk taker’ he ever knew for a while!

There is nothing so bad and damaging than frustrated staff that suffer in disdain and in quiet, frustration, rancour, bitterness and in apathy and in disappointments. When staff are ‘not healthy’ the organisation also suffers eventually. Productivity is affected. You can forget ideas of expansion; survival of the establishment is highly taxed and put to great risks, deprivation and in detriment.

The concepts of Change Management are in itself complex in that even the Management do not agree to each other on what is the right approach and perspective to ‘influence change’ in itself per se.

Recommendations.

It is essential and vital to get everyone on board when contemplating and formulating changes. The underlying factor is that the new CEO especially has to understand and appreciate that he is dealing with the most complex of his resources (albeit it being the most paramount and important one too).

It is critical and extreme too if these changes would incorporate drastic changes or reversals in peoples entrenched formal positions (worse in informal leadership positions!) or their continued existence in the Organisation, that the new CEO uses all his tact, interpersonal and managerial skills to see participation and involvement of all the staff (or majority) in these changes per se.

It is very important to make Staff feel that no particular polarization or group is being targeted in these changes, even if the intentions maybe good sincere and genuine, and this was ‘not in the plans’ per se!
My advice and counsel to CEOs and ‘the new man in Charge’ is that not many of our subordinates are ready to take a risk to tell you exactly what they think or feel – especially when they see very bad and raw treatment vetted out on the long serving staff.

It is not a question of just getting rid of only old staff who perhaps may be truly ‘transfixed and rigid in their outlooks and approaches, or even ‘dead wood’ for that matter.
It is a question of how you get to know the establishment well first, to get to know its social culture and its environment and modus operation, and how you tackle the issue and convince people.

Even armies if they are not convinced, they will surrender and let the enemy take over. We saw that even in Iraq just only recently! The same ‘convinced army’ will fight to its death in protecting and honouring those it is supposed to serve and protect. We have already seen examples of that recently.

The thing is called “tact” and the right and correct approach and how equitable, ethical and right approach and cohesion is taken.

Key words are esteem, ethics, professionalism, esteem, respect and reciprocal good treatment!! And also leading by examples and in demonstrations.

This is my (humble) advice to any CEO who wants to make a niche and name for himself, and to be acknowledged as a ‘successful CEO’ – and not a loser (and either be sidelined / marginalized or even eventually be jobless, what goes around, comes around!).

Remember you are the driver of the car, when your passengers are scared, they will not tell you of the obstacles you cannot see. You will only see after inadvertently you have hit them!

That is the worst-case scenario for any CEO! New or Old!

The rest is history on what had happened to Morsi. A lot of ‘Conspiracy Stories’ are now emerging as to why he was removed from power – including The Ethiopian Dam Link – The Israeli-Saudi link – and the usual of The West not wanting an ‘Islamic Government’ to succeed in Egypt – after The Turkey and Senegal experiences etc – and ‘refusing to accept ‘Democracy results’ in previously Algeria and Gaza.
And Morsi should have realised the sinister forces working against him – and who he was surrounded with. Phaorah’s Egypt. On a personal front – it was a big mistake to open his mistakes in his rambling 2 hours speech

Anyway, as I had promised in the beginning I will stop here – as my usual style in writing of ‘taking you up to the bridge – and then letting you decide if you want to cross it – or go back.

 

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Images – For and Against Morsi – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

This article is dedicated to the innocent lost lives and maimed ones in the ‘unneeded and unwanted called for’ massacres – instead of following our Religion and The Hadith in solving our own problems our own ways – by frank honest sincere genuine one-to-one – give-and-take – face2face discussions – and in making hard, difficult complex decisions for compromises, settlements and solutions.
Let us only hope and pray MB does not go underground – as Muslims (Arabs) lose confidence in Elections! Making Another Syria – the worst nightmare scenario!
May Allah God Guide us and Protect and Preserve us all from His Anger and Fury – Amin
With sincere and due apologies,
By:  Majid Al-Suleimany

 

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Crying Turkish President on The Massacres – The wording says – Do Not Cry, Mr. President!

August 19, 2013tion

P.S. I follow my Religion – and I do believe in Live and Let Live – Patience, Tolerat!ion, Peace and Harmony Always!

The Writer is a weekly Column Contributor in The Oman Observer Features under ‘Between Us Only’. He has published 10 books – more details here at http://www.myownmajid.com
He has worked for over 25 years as a Human Resources Professional in mainly Petroleum Development Oman (PDO). And a Management Expert, Consultant and Advisor for the past 12 years – now fully retired. He holds an MBA in International Management (UK).

Do Not Cry For Me!

Do Not Cry For Me!

Further my below –

http://majidwrite.com/2013/08/15/things-have-really-not-changed/

From a good American Friend –

Maybe you should consider our place here. Here we do respect The Elders – especially The Learned Ones like you. Sad you have a Great Religion – but you do not simply follow it! I feel desolate to see the carnages in Egypt.

From an Omani Enthusiast

I think it is time to let go the Indians especially – and particularly those that have been with so for so long! They are the worser kinds than the newer ones, although they too get influenced easily by the same lots! Anyway, our younger ones are getting smarter – and they will solve all these problems for us and even sooner than we are thinking of! Mark my words!

http://www.hurriyetdailynews.com/egypt-shame-for-islam-arab-world-turkish-president-gul-says.aspx?pageID=238&nID=52700&NewsCatID=338

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The only reason for being a professional writer is that you can’t help it. Leo Rosten

Things Have Really Not Changed!

Front Wipe My Tears

Things Have Simply Not Really Changed!

Today I tried my best – and avoided to get embroiled into an argument with one – sorry to say it to those of my friends! – an Indian Top Sales Marketing guy – a Services Provider that I have been using for a number of years. Have given them good business in the past – and the relationships are to mutual advantages, anyway!

There is no point to continue banging my head against brick walls – and just making it swollen and red in the process!

Five years ago, I had formally reported this same guy to his Indian Superiors – and I went so far to report him formally to The Company Owners – who though are Omanis – but are also of Indian descent.

The person promised to change and behave – but simply has not! In treating even qualified, experienced and professional Omanis with complete disdain and contempt. The mind just boggles of how he treats the Junior Younger Omanis under him.

I have stopped writing now my columns in The Oman Daily Observer – because there too things have not changed that much to date?

I have written two books in Management in these issues – http://www.myownmajid.com – and several column articles before – so what is the use, anyway I do not know how long these things will continue – before there is a breaking point?

The problems with us Omanis are that we are very  welcoming, respecting and esteeming to ‘The Invited Guests’ in our country – unalike even others near us! hus the few of them especially feel it is okay to ‘shit over our heads’ in forgeting the famous expression – Biting the hand that feeds you …and ending as proved in many cases – of ‘licking the boot that kicks you’!!

I am not a Political Scientist or Expert – but since yesterday Wednesday I have never ever felt so sad in my life ever before – because all the things I have said and cautioned about have come to pass – and I feel so sad, unhappy and miserable to keep saying – I have said it, before! Or I told you so!

Even at the dangers of losing something so nice and good that you had never had before or expected – and something you should strive to protect, defend and let it grow and propsper – the evilness and selfishness in people will jist not change – even if they know their actions – or inactions – would lead to what, where and when!

May Allah God Protect and Preserve us all – from His Anger and Fury – Amin.

So Sad.

Majid al Suleimany

Thursday – August 15th 2013.

To send a letter is a good way to go somewhere without moving anything but your heart. Phyllis Theroux

Things Have Really Not Changed!

Points To Ponder!

Points To Ponder!

 

August 13, 2013

 

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A                Young Marriages in Troubles!

2 - No More Smiles 3 - Unhappy Couple

 

I was inquiring about one young couple with young children – that we know well – why they had not come to visit us this Eid – as they usually do! I was told – Have you not heard? Heard what? – I asked back!

Then they told me that this beautiful couple had divorced a few backs. It seems the main issues were mainly money related – each one building his and her own villa. The problems that there was so much concentration on ‘building a decent large villa’ that family living expenses and expenditures took a direct hit!

I read somewhere that internationally one of the major reasons of divorces was ‘money related’. It is very sad because these young children will be most affected by this divorce – because the innocent children will not understand and appreciate what has just happened – and how was it possible that the people that loved them this so much – hated each other so vehemently and disastrously – to go their different ways – just for money! Like I have said so many times before – it is the children that get most hit and affected in such cases!

We have still not learnt our lessons – despite all of our Religious Teachings, The Holy Book and The Islamic Hadith – that our lives on this earth are just a temporary phase – and a transition to a Greater World! It reminded me also of reading about The Great King Alexander Story – ‘I came to the world empty-handed – and I leave to my grave empty-handed! I go with my hands out in my coffin – and as I leave behind all my treasures and wealth – and cannot take it with me even!’

 

B                     Ants versus Us Humans!

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I was watching these ants in my villa garden in Qorum Heights- and as I was eating this chicken sandwich! A small piece of chicken had fallen on the floor – and who comes along at top speed but this small black ant! I watch intrigued as the ant starts pulling the piece towards what I expect to be its ant hill entrance! I was really intrigued in its unselfishness – and its determination to pull this ‘morsel’ to share with others – and even if it was almost three times its own size!

I was thinking aloud that if this was ‘a human being’ – it would first make sure it had a full feed of the morsel – or even keeping it for himself only! Yet here it was determined to give its full strength and abilities to share with others! As far as I could tell – it had not even taken a bite of the ‘morsel’ for itself – but had instead willed and determined to share – first and foremost – with others first!

Ants can teach us humans a lot of things. I respected this ant so much – and I just left it alone! I could not bring myself to harm it in anyway – even if I had tried! Soon other ants came to help the ant! I decided to leave then – because knowing us human beings – I would find the entrance – and kill and destroy all the ants!

This is a great achievement for the ants – when even your worst enemy has just but to admire you – and leave you alone to your fate – be it whatever it is!

Take Care!

By

Majid Al Suleimany

August 13, 2013

N.B. I would appreciate responses here or to majidsn@majidsuleimany.com if it is worth continuing posting these kind of articles here in view of ending of my Oman Daily Observer Columns?

Alternatively, maybe just closing down the sites?

Regards,

 

Majid Al Suleimany

August 14th 2013.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My Most Vivid Dream! The Sequel!

My Most Vivid Dream! The Sequel!

In one of my articles, that I had written as a young boy for a National Writing Competition in that distant land was titled – My Most Vivid Dream! I have never given so much details until now what I had really dreamt in that dream – because sometimes it is better that way! But in a nutshell the dream had never turned to reality – but only to find myself instead – with my family – returning to Oman – after my late father had left for East Africa as a young man with 2 of his children – my late elder brother and sister aged then at 12 and 10 respectively!

As Muslims, we believe that once someone has died – there is no sort of communication between the dead and living! I was talking to one famous Religious Scholar one day and telling him about a dream I had of my late father coming to me to console me – and this was at a time when I was very sad and distraught about the things that were facing me in my life then!

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My late Father had put me on a coconut tree and he was shaking the tree like a child’s swing! All the time trying to console and comfort me! The Religious Scholar was visibly upset that I believed in such things – and was trying to convince me ‘that it was a big sin’ to believe in such things! In the end, seeing I was not agreeing with him – and wanting to depart on cool terms he added that ‘because we think too much on these things – that is why such dreams come to us!

Anyway, last night a bit disappointed – because I thought today Thursday August 8th would be Eid – being a diabetic case and finding it more hard and difficult as the years go by – I had another of these mirage dreams!

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It all comes from all these continuous disappointments I had with the said Newspaper and also some delicate intricate family issues – and perhaps the reason why I had dreamt again! This time my late Father was a bit angry and disappointed with me! He was saying to me ‘to stop hurting yourself and banging your head against brick walls – making it swollen and red – and that you are just wasting your time, efforts and energies – because you cannot ‘change anything in the society’ – like I had told you before many times – but you still you do not listen to me!

Please stop these things now – he implored – and almost begged me – before I woke up with a start!

Eid Greetings!

By Majid Al Suleimany

August 8, 2013

My New Book – Wipe My Tears!

My New Book – Wipe My Tears!

Full Book Cover – FYI!

More info at www.myownmajid.com

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Words, once they are printed, have a life of their own. Carol Burnett

Regards,

Majid Al Suleimany