Explaining Death ToThe Children!

Explaining Death To Children!

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Images Death and Prayers – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

 This week a relative lady had died due to breast cancer case. Before the funeral – all the male were gathered in one house – and the ladies in another house where the dead person lay before the funeral wash and abolution. Both the houses were in the same street and belonging to the different brothers in the family.

As I was going to the toilet nearing departure to the Masjid time – I saw these two boys watching cartoons in television – with a loud voice on! So I asked the one holding the remote ‘why did you put the television on when you know that your grandmother had just died?’

His answer shook me to pieces – he hardly 5 years old told me – no we were told our grandmother was very sick and is in hospital – and the people are now leaving to go to the hospital! The children were in the men’s house! So I asked if ‘they were allowed to watch television because the men were leaving the house now? He looked at me as if I had asked him a silly stupid question!

I can only presume that their parents were so busy with the funeral arrangements to have time to sit and discuss about the death of their grandmother to them!

Frankly speaking, this week too I had a live Oman FM Radio interview with the subject of ‘Embedding The Habit of Reading To Children’ as the subject matter! In it I had talked about families disintegrating and the children being looked by housemaids – whilst the father and the mother were all trying to make more and more money – and not taking caring and paying attention to the children as they were required to – by mentoring, coaching and ‘leading by example’. My actual words were – What is the point of having so much more money – when the family is disintegrating in front  of your very eyes? See the article here! Also here and also at   http://majidall.com/2014/02/05/my-oman-fm-radio-interview/

I remember when our grandfather died no one had spoken to us about all the havoc and crying and what was going on. So we were taken to a neighbour’s house and there we did not think it as outward or weird to play football – whilst they were making the body of our grandfather ready for burial. Even as a teenager we did not know what to do when our baby sister died as at three months old – she was born of poor health and hardly cried till the last one day of her death!

Parents underestimate children and what knowledge they have on death – which can shock you quite a lot! Give them due credit – especially the children now of late! They have seen birds, cats, dogs etc die – some unfortunate even in fatalistic accidents – www.bethesafedriver.com

The tendency is to cover and protect the children from a ‘morbid and scary subject’ – but the outcome and repercussions are too scary and horrendous even to imagine! What kind of future will they have with their offsprings if they are not to be made to feel and have feelings – and to be made aware of death – and that death will come to all of us one day! Only we do not know our time – and how we will die!

This is a widely covered subject in the Internet – and there are many websites in the Internet to guide us – see below – but the best book is our Holy Quran (Gospel, Torah etc) and the Islamic Hadith too – and like I said in my interview to spend ‘more quality time with the children – and in leading by example!

Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

 

 Various Websites – including The Holy Quran, The Hadith, Bukhari, Moslem etc –

http://www.hospicenet.org/html/talking.html

http://www.ehow.com/how_2060034_explain-death-young-child.html

http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/death.html

http://www.pedsforparents.com/articles/3066.shtml

http://www.babble.com/kid/explaining-death-to-kids-coping-with-loss-grief-counseling/

Many books in www.amazon.com etc

My Oman FM Radio Interview!

PLEASE LISTEN TO THE AUDIO WITH CHILDREN AND FAMILY!

My Oman FM Radio Interview!

http://myownmajid.com/2014/02/08/my-own-fm-radio-interview/

 Go here – you will find the link inside! Double click to save or run the audio (60 minutes). Tell me what you think!

Please listen with your children family – embedding reading habits in our children! 

Thanks,

Best Regards 

Majid Al Suleimany

Under interactive guidance of Producer Hatim Abdul Salaam, I was interviewed Live on Tuesday 21st January 2014 from 7 pm to 8 pm with a five minutes break in between. It was Family Programme under the title of Embedding The Habit of Reading For The Youth.

The feedbacks were mainly all positive with one commentator (lady expatriate) commenting it was one of the best programmes she had listened to in a very long time. She is a regular listener to the programmes in FM Oman Radio.

After a brief introduction on myself and how I got into my hobby and passion of writing since 14 years of age, we went deep into the subject.

Areas of Coverage

  • How I became very much interested in reading and writing as a young boy of 14 years of age.
  • My first essay My Most Vivid Dream won a National Award in Tanzania in 19605
  • Author of 10 books – 2 in Arab Management – 2 in Road Safety Awareness and 6 others based on my columns in The Oman Daily Observer since 2003
  • Worked in Human Resources for 25 years in PDO and as Management Consultant for 12 years after Early Retirement in PDO and after my Management Consultancy firm had to close down for financial loss reasons
  • Have always liked writing – from School Magazines, Colleges, PDO, Other Places – and early days in Times of Oman with 2 main articles on Omanisation and Road Traffic issues in Oman
  • Moved to Oman Daily Observer as a Columnist (part time) since March 2003.

Sequences Topics of The Interviews

  • Why to encourage writing and the benefits and advantages of writing
  • Even our Great Prophet PBUH was told `Read’ ‘ – in the Holy Quran – and the advent and start of Islam! See here – Read! In the name of your Lord and Cherisher – Sura 96 – Al Alaq – The Clinging Clot.
  • Travel as far as to China to gain knowledge! – Islamic Hadith
  • How we can encourage more reading especially starting with the young children first
  • The negative effects of Not Writing!
  • Issues in Writing and Reading – and possible solutions
  • Why more support, encouragement and assistance is required – and not to look at the issues narrow minded by looking at it in money terms and profits only!
  • Diverge into English and not concentrate only in Arabic
  • Enlarge the scope of support to not only (fine) arts but also in writing and reading
  • Giving more attention and in valuing more our own Writers, Authors and Columnists
  • Move from only currently looking at outside country (Foreigners) and in concentrating in picture books, poems, cook books, subject topics etc – especially if written and compiled by Foreigners
  • Serious Reading and books that ‘make you think’ need more emphasis and support
  • Encouragement by small incentives for children reading in the family by family themselves – and things like making Home Library – even if start with few books first
  • Others related

Sayings

  • I cannot live without books – Thomas Jefferson
  • I spend a lot of time reading – Bill Gates
  • If you would not be forgotten as soon as you are dead, either write things worth reading – or do things worth the writing – Benjamin Franklin
  • You do not have to burn books to destroy a culture. Just get people to stop reading them – Ray Bradbury
  • Writing is the only profession where no one considers you ridiculous if you earn no money – Jules Renard
  • Life cannot defeat a Writer who is in love with writing – for life itself is a Writer’s love until death – Edna Ferber
  • Many Others!

My Books, Columns and Writing Websites

If you have listened to the programme and have feedbacks to give – please write to me at majid@mymajidwrite.com

My Oman FM Radio Interview

Under interactive guidance of Producer Hatim Abdul Salaam, I was interviewed Live on Tuesday 21st January 2014 from 7 pm to 8 pm with a five minutes break in between. It was Family Programme under the title of Embedding The Habit of Reading For The Youth.

The feedbacks were mainly all positive with one commentator (lady expatriate) commenting it was one of the best programmes she had listened to in a very long time. She is a regular listener to the programmes in FM Oman Radio.

After a brief introduction on myself and how I got into my hobby and passion of writing since 14 years of age, we went deep into the subject.

Areas of Coverage

  • How I became very much interested in reading and writing as a young boy of 14 years of age.
  • My first essay My Most Vivid Dream won a National Award in Tanzania in 19605
  • Author of 10 books – 2 in Arab Management – 2 in Road Safety Awareness and 6 others based on my columns in The Oman Daily Observer since 2003
  • Worked in Human Resources for 25 years in PDO and as Management Consultant for 12 years after Early Retirement in PDO and after my Management Consultancy firm had to close down for financial loss reasons
  • Have always liked writing – from School Magazines, Colleges, PDO, Other Places – and early days in Times of Oman with 2 main articles on Omanisation and Road Traffic issues in Oman
  • Moved to Oman Daily Observer as a Columnist (part time) since March 2003.

Sequences Topics of The Interviews

  • Why to encourage writing and the benefits and advantages of writing
  • Even our Great Prophet PBUH was told `Read’ ‘ – in the Holy Quran – and the advent and start of Islam! See here – Read! In the name of your Lord and Cherisher – Sura 96 – Al Alaq – The Clinging Clot.
  • Travel as far as to China to gain knowledge! – Islamic Hadith
  • How we can encourage more reading especially starting with the young children first
  • The negative effects of Not Writing!
  • Issues in Writing and Reading – and possible solutions
  • Why more support, encouragement and assistance is required – and not to look at the issues narrow minded by looking at it in money terms and profits only!
  • Diverge into English and not concentrate only in Arabic
  • Enlarge the scope of support to not only (fine) arts but also in writing and reading
  • Giving more attention and in valuing more our own Writers, Authors and Columnists
  • Move from only currently looking at outside country (Foreigners) and in concentrating in picture books, poems, cook books, subject topics etc – especially if written and compiled by Foreigners
  • Serious Reading and books that ‘make you think’ need more emphasis and support
  • Encouragement by small incentives for children reading in the family by family themselves – and things like making Home Library – even if start with few books first
  • Others related

Sayings

  • I cannot live without books – Thomas Jefferson
  • I spend a lot of time reading – Bill Gates
  • If you would not be forgotten as soon as you are dead, either write things worth reading – or do things worth the writing – Benjamin Franklin
  • You do not have to burn books to destroy a culture. Just get people to stop reading them – Ray Bradbury
  • Writing is the only profession where no one considers you ridiculous if you earn no money – Jules Renard
  • Life cannot defeat a Writer who is in love with writing – for life itself is a Writer’s love until death – Edna Ferber
  • Many Others!

My Books, Columns and Writing Websites

If you have listened to the programme and have feedbacks to give – please write to me at majid@mymajidwrite.com