How Oman has changed in its Ways!

Oman – Please Do Not Cry For Me Anymore Now!

How Oman Has Changed In Its Ways!

Buying a car on Hire Purchase at age of 55 plus? Think Again!

Pontiac Bonneville Yukon 1 Yukon

 

A long time ago I walked into this car showroom in Ruwi and saw this beautiful car and immediately fell in love with it! It was the Pontiac Bonneville – now no longer made!

There was this nice old Oman man and he called me over and asked me if I liked the car? Maybe he saw me the way I was looking at it? I told him Yes – but will come in two months time to see what I could do! He asked me my name – and he recognized my father as one he did business with – and wanted to meet him if possible?

A few days later they met embraced and cried together – remembering the old days. By this time I had been given the car already – and the poor kind hearted man – Allah Rest his soul in eternal peace in this world and the next – and open the doors for the highest heavens for him – Ameen – he took money from his own dishdasha to pay for Registration. My family were shocked to see me with the new car!

Yesterday in the same business house they wanted a Guarantor for the GMC Yukon and though provided yet was still turned down! Why? Because I am over 55 and have No Wastah!

How times change! The difference of course having an expatriate (Indian) GM who calls All The Shots! And he remembered my Columns and my articles! Even though those too are now dead! With a new man calling all the shots! Conditions after conditions were set just to make things difficult and more difficult. Famous style well known of finding formality to just say NO purposefully and willfully!

Even the Banks etc. think that you can drop dead at any minute! Thus it is better if you go to the Saih Dhabi funeral grounds and just wait for your turn to kick the bucket!

Though I have seen so many higher brackets younger ones going fast – and some sadly as Road Casualties! But no problem! I have seen cars with green plate numbers (test drive new) also meet with tragic fatalities!

There are those in Top positions who have lots of financial issues – but easily and fast given the loans!

Did you know that even the so-called Islamic Banks also think just the same? Even the new completely Fresh Ones for that matter! So where is the Islam part here?

I could live to 102 years old – and that young man at 35 die just tomorrow! Only Allah God Knows these secrets! Not us human beings! Certainly Not Financial Houses – many run by Non Omanis Non Believers too! Even if Omani and Believers too!

It is all so confusing and complexing!

Oman – Please Do Not Cry For Me Anymore Now!

Allah Kareem – God Is Great!

Take Care!

Majid Al Suleimany

The Famous Theme – Do Not Cry For Me Argentina!

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The UK Links!

The UK Links!

The person who causes strife between family  members (friends, relatives etc.) is designated only for the eternal Hell fire! – The Islamic Hadith (Beliefs)

My UK Links – Also links with my British nephews and nieces from my brother Nasser and his ex wife late Hillary Bailey – Rest in Peace – Peace Be Upon Her! – Amen – One year anniversary.

As they say – pictures speak louder than words! QED!

I rest my case!

From The Family Album – pictures UK and in Oman with Nasser family then –

Me in UK Course 1[1] Me in Uk 1975

Outside conference – With Sister Asya, Brother Nasser and Hamoud!

 

Bachelor Majid  Me in Class (2) (2)

From Brunei girl in class – and classmate Brit girl

 

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Top photos – My Wedding Photos – Bottom Family Nasser and Rest in Oman

Late Hillary pbuh – Aisha, Sharifa, Hassan and Said – Nasser Children above

Best Regards,

Majid Al Suleimany

The Big Man with The Big Heart – only if respected & treated right!

He will bring the moon to you – or can be the worst person you ever saw in your life! If treated bad!

Your pick!

My Filipino housemaid Miriam has been with us for 15 years now. She is devout Christian and has her own images of Christ in her room. She goes to church every Saturday – and we take her there!

I believe in Live and Let Live! But it has a two way traffic!

BYE – A FINAL BYE

 Majid Al Suleimany

Also http://www.myownmajid.com  & http://www.myshorttakes.com

 

P.S. – Addendum

There is an age old East African saying that goes on like this – If brother (family/relative) fight another; take a plough and go to farm! That is do not get involved!

An Arabic one – If my brother fights my brother; I will not get involved! But if my brother fights my cousin; I will support my brother. But if my cousin fights another; I will support my cousin!

It is all a matter of priorities – and a clean healthy fresh outlook and perspective on life!

Take Care!

Always forgive your enemies – nothing annoys them so much! – Oscar Wilde.
If you cannot beat your adversaries; confuse them! – Anon

Majid Al Suleimany

 

Reactions Received – My Letter To The Newspaper!

Reactions Received – My Letter To The Newspaper!

Fan (Omani) – I think your reaction to the newspaper was to the point. My only advice is that don’t allow the other party to get the best of you. Don’t sound emotional. Just give them your piece of mind and move on..

Lady Fan (Omani)  – Well , its one’s duty to speak up when things don’t go well, if I were you I would have kept quiet cause its just like talking to a wall. Its not heard and nobody cares. Its just losing ur face over and over again and nobody cares. I will never agree with you the way you humiliate ur self. You are a talented man you deserve the best of the respect. Be calm Majid it won’t harm you and Allah sees everything. Be patient. If one door closes the other will open. Believe me.

Fan (Omani) – Spot on. I think there is a lot of hypocrisy in our society. You call a spade a spade and that’s quite admirable. Very few people have the guts to go openly public in expressing a critical opinion. Did you get any response?

From A Dr. Phd – Dr. Faris Al Hajri – See Comments Here

Dear Mr Majid, We strongly support your endeavor. Remember, the best writers, noble people, celebrities, scientists, etc, were at first neglected by their own people; that is in West during the past centuries. But; today it all changed. So keep up, never give up, you’re a very great writer, never let any negative people or pessimistic people put you down, the most you succeed, the more their feel ashamed of their wrong acts.

Finally, the Universe will respond to you abundantly. Keep up with those who are attracted by you, keep some distance to those who neglect you.

Keep looking at your achievements most whenever you get upset of a specific incident. You’re great in the eyes of many who deserve to see your smiles.  Cheers!!!

Senior Omani Professional  – I admire your guts and in your sincerity to want to make changes in things before they go really bad!

Some others ‘too personal’ to include here – but equally good (or have requested anonymity) !

Missing ! Where are the Expatriate Fans? Abandoned Ship?

Best Regards,

Majid Al Suleimany

Best Wishes and Regards

Majid Al Suleimany

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N.B. If this is how a long time serving National Columnist of over 13 years and in a Public Newspaper is treated, the mind just boggles what happens elsewhere? You be The Judge!

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My Letter To The Newspaper!

Letter To The Newspaper (My Columns!)

Dear Chief Editor & Team

After Compliments; 

I would like to express my thanks and appreciation for your turning down my article – No Money For The Crayons! For your Weekend Magazine despite a personal call and plea from you yourself to me to send in the article.

The Weekend came – but  my article was not in! 

Nobody had called me earlier to explain why the article did not appear. As my style, I sent in my emotional query. The response was ‘the article was not suitable for our requirements’ – but I guess it was your rights and decisions to accept or reject any article. No one can argue or dispute that!

Sadly, the article was received well in the social media including WordPress, Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Tumblr, Google Plus etc – and I did send you some feedbacks – which as usual were unacknowledged and ignored – as usual! What else is new?

It gave me courage to create my own website dedicated to Short Takes (Stories) here at http://www.myshorttakes.com/

Sadly too, despite a signed contract with the person you took over from  –  my contract of two columns per week and a formal WRITTEN notice of one month from both sides for any changes – I was unceremoniously removed by ultimatum of only one article – take it or leave it – and I chose ‘to leave it’ – or as we lot born in Zanzibar like to say ‘rubbing salt into the wound’! Sic!

So sad and tragic!

And all this because I previously complained bitterly for being delayed in payments for over even 6 months – and then deciding which article to pay or not!

It is sad and tragic how our National Governmental Newspaper can treat this way long time running National Columnists!

But nothing is surprising – because that is how things are goiing now – and one has to accept the status quo only!

On Monday 7th April, 2014 there was a PDO Petroleum Development Oman Retirees Party. As you may know if interested, the biggest chunk of my Readers come from PDO and The MOG Sector – being one of them. Plus Omanis that read English Newspapers more – and all The Residents, Guests and Friends in Oman – AlHamdu Lillah – God Is Great! Ameen – Amen!

I told them they can follow me in The Social Media if still interested – and if they have any issues I can refer them to past articles.

Dear Sirs  – you yourself told me in more than one hour chat with you why you left your previous job to join here!

But I do not blame you – because The Truth is people want the dirt to be pushed under the carpet and those like me daring to speak are targetted, sidelined and marginalised.

The Truth can NEVER BE STOPPED – it is all issues of time and dire consequences and repercussions only!

Nice knowing you all and thanks for the iPhone 5 Ramadhan Gift – at the cost of my columns.

Let me be clear! I do not want resumption of my columns even if paid 100 Rials per article. This is not only for you  but sadly all the other newspapers in Oman for that matter. 

Take care and wishing you and your families all the best – and my sincere genuine apologies!

Goodbye….

Sent From My Dell PC

Best Wishes and Regards

Majid Al Suleimany

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N.B. If this is how a long time serving National Columnist of over 13 years and in a Public Newspaper is treated, the mind just boggles what happens elsewhere? You be The Judge!

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Flying From The Cuckoo’s Nest!

Flying From The Cuckoo’s Nest!

From Baby Princess To Bride!

Or Flying From The Cuckoo’s Nest!

How time flies! That baby girl is now getting married – can you imagine?

Her bridal function is set on 12th April 2014! Insha Allah! God Willing Ameen Amen!

Goodbye Little Girl!

See Yah!

Welcome Bridal Daughter!

You have grown … flown the cuckoo’s nest .. but in our eyes you are still that small girl princess!

Wishing you all the best with your now husband Suhaib ….

But that your room will stay as it is…and come and visit stay whenever you feel the need.

Ever Loving

Pappa & Mamma.

 

 

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Images – Baby Marwa

Ever Loving

Pappa & Mamma.

Goodbye! My Dear Heart!

Just A Final More Time!

A Goodbye Final Letter To My Heart!

 

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April 6, 2014

Dear Majid;

Today I was reading the following articles in Times of Oman: –

  • Expatriate population touches 1.766 million – by A.E. James – businesseditor@timesofoman.com
  • Why private sector lags in Omanisation – by Elham PourMohammadi – elham@timesofoman.com
  • Oman’s economic growth outlook favours expats – Sunday Beat – by Saleh Al Shaibany – saleh@timesofoman.com
  • Several news of drugs, forgery, fraud and theft in Page 2 Muscat Daily of the same date.
  • 19,110 vie for 2,095 jobs – The Oman Daily Observer of the same date.
  • Several other titbits here and there!

I also refer to several of your Posts in your websites – as below: –

  • Why you are no longer a Columnist – Between Us Only! – at The Oman Daily Observer.
  • About your books and especially The Arab Management books recognition in USA of Psychology of Arab Management Thinking! winning The Gold Seal of Literacy Excellence 2013.
  • Your Arab Management book – A Cry For Help! – entering for 2014 and is in shortlist for the same award – Eric Hoffer Award USA 2014.
  • Both your above books wanted to counsel, caution and warn – and well published long before the troubles started hitting our lands – mainly driven by The Youth looking for jobs as the main stimuli and aspiration!
  • Reference your Open Letter To The Youth after it started – and the all encompassing one – All Under One Flag! – www.majidall.com and www.majidwrite.com
  • Creating your own website for Short Takes – www.myshorttakes.com – after your Omani Theme Short Takes – Short Stories – your article – No Money For The Crayons! – was rejected as ‘not suitable and does not meet our requirements’ – after your following why it was not published for the new Weekend Magazine – even after ‘being invited’ to send in your entrant!
  • Your Road Safety Awareness RSA website www.bethesafedriver.com and your two books RSA Being The Safe Driver! And Behind The Wheel!
  • Your other books in www.myownmajid.com and www.myown-ebooks.com
  • Your sending of your various complimentary books to various VIPs – but only acknowledgement coming from few expatriate CEOs having received them!
  • Your critical investigative Opinion website – www.majidsn.com
  • You have even been avoiding congregation prayers and social functions – because ‘there is bound to be someone to upset and annoy you there – and you have been keeping to yourself more only!
  • Life cannot defeat a Writer who is in love with writing , for life itself is a Writer’s love until deathEdna Ferber
  • Sayings –
  • History will always repeat itself because humans never learn from their mistakes!
  • George Bernard Shaw: We learn from history that we learn nothing from history.
  • George Santayana: Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it.
  • George Wilhelm Hegel: What experience and history teach is this — that people and governments never have learned anything from history, or acted on principles.
  • Maya Angelou: History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.
  • Thucydides: History is Philosophy teaching by examples.
  • Unless we learn from history, we are destined to repeat it. This is no longer merely an academic exercise, but may contain our worlds fate and our destiny – Alex Haley
  • The world is too dangerous to live in – not because of the people who do evil but because of the people who sit and let it happen’. – Albert Einstein
  • Because you wanted always to Speak The Truth! And because you care and feel, you ended as The LOSER in all these!
  • You have suffered – and your family has also suffered – because of your outlooks, approaches etc. in your life – building up only hostilities, bitterness, jealousies and envies only! 

Dear Majid;

I think as a faithful, caring, feeling, genuine and loyal citizen you have done your bit! No one can deny you this – whatever or however they feel about you! That is The Truth only!

Dear Majid – You yourself have said it! Do not tell someone with eyes to see; with ears to hear; and with a mouth to speak! Or as we Arabs say too – There is no one so blind but with eyes but cannot see – so deaf but with ears cannot hear – and so dumb but with a mouth but cannot speak!

Or as The Romans used to say – Those that the gods want to destroy – the gods make them not able to see, hear or speak!

Dear Majid – I remember your rhetorical story of the man driving fast in his quarrel with his wife at the side grumbling, complaining and nagging at him – and the children at the back seats fighting amongst themselves – and throwing things around at each other! Will the car make an accident? With the distracted driver?

Dear Majid – you are also an acute sick and diabetic case person. You are soon going to be alone with your last daughter getting married – and flying from The Cuckoo’s Nest!

My Dear Majid – it is time you hang up your apron! Take the rest and quiet that you need now in your life! Take care only of yourself – and your family only!

Rest now Dear Majid – you do need the rest, peace and quiet now!

Your work has been done! Take Care – and wishing you all the best!

Whatever is bound to happen – and you are no longer responsible! If it is bound to happen – it will – and there is nothing now you can do to stop it!

You tried your best! You did your bit anyhow – some can say even ‘chewed more than you could take! Now Move On!

Take Care My Brother! My Friend!

Love You,

Majid Al Suleimany.

April 6, 2014

Muscat – Sultanate of Oman.

Driving In The Rain? Please Read It!

Driving In The Rain? Please Read It!

Oman Motorists – Please Read This Now!

It Might Save Your Life!

By Fahad Al Ghadani – Times of Oman – 2.4.2014

 

*** The Times of Oman Article –

http://www.timesofoman.com/News/Article-31925.aspx#

 

Some More Articles – More You Can Google Search!

http://www.savannahhyundai.com/blogs/458/savannah-hyundai-dealership-news/how-to-drive-in-a-flood/

http://www.smartdriving.co.uk/Driving/Driving_emergencies/Floods.htm

More you can Google Search. Many articles here – Driving in the rain!

 

*** The Times of Oman article –

Muscat: If the headline sounds familiar, it should. Times of Oman last Wednesday urged drivers to slow down during the rain and avoid the overflowing wadis. That very night, despite his brother’s pleadings, Salim Al Kalbani, 28, tragically risked crossing a wadi despite the downpour, a decision that claimed his life and could have killed his younger sibling, Hamad Al Kalbani, 26, too. So today, with more rain forecast in parts of the Sultanate, we say don’t listen to us, listen to the words of a grieving Hamad, who survived narrowly after their car was swept away by the turbulent waters of Wadi Kabir in the wilayat of Ibri.

“I tried to convince him to wait till the water flow comes down. However, he believed in his vehicle’s power to cross the wadi,” said Hamad, an Ibri resident. “I decided to jump from the window as many citizens and civil defence force personnel were trying to help us after the wadi flow started sending the vehicle adrift. “I tried to help my brother but he got trapped inside the vehicle and couldn’t survive,” said Hamad, who had a narrow escape, thanks to the help from citizens and civil defence force personnel.

“I lost my brother and I feel really bad that I couldn’t stop him from crossing the wadi at first and couldn’t rescue him when the wadi washed away the car. If I can go back in time, I would stop my brother from crossing the wadi even if I had to use force,” said Hamad. The Royal Oman Police and the Public Authority for Civil Defence and Ambulance (PACDA) frequently try to prevent such tragedies by sending out weather warnings, but these are often ignored by young men in their 20s. But it’s not just men driving into trouble. Each incident risks the lives not only of those unwitting or foolhardy enough to risk the weather, but also endangers those who go to their rescue.

Heroic rescue

In a heroic incident, also last Wednesday, a young man, who heard screams of a woman and her children coming from a vehicle that was being swept away by a wadi in Nizwa, decided to risk his life and tried to prevent the vehicle from drifting away in the wadi. The man was able to save the entire family from what seemed certain death. However, residents of Nizwa urged the government to find a solution to the wadis flowing in the Souq area as they always suffer damages and casualties. The Al Dakhiliyah region witnesses heavy rains that lead to a lot of wadis overflowing and converging in front of the Souq area, causing massive flow of water that makes it difficult to cross the main road there. In response, the Public Authority for Civil Defence and Ambulance in Nizwa is trying to find a way to avoid damages like the ones that occurred due to the wadi flow in Nizwa Souq area when it had rained last. Plan afoot to curb flooding dangers

A reliable source at the Public Authority Civil Defence and Ambulance told Times of Oman that the authority is open to several solutions, including building a dam or finding a way to change the route of the wadi’s flow. “The Public Authority for Civil Defence and Ambulance in Nizwa believes that the new road project connecting Farq to Tanouf will help avoid damages suffered during rains,” the source explained. He added that the project is ongoing and expected that once finished, it would result in smooth flow of traffic during rain and help normalise life.

The PACDA is still investigating a case in which a man went missing after his car fell off a cliff overlooking a wadi in the Wilayat of Dima Wa Al Tayeen. The Wilayat of Dima Wa Al Tayeen received heavy rainfall on Saturday night. Though it is not known whether the accident was connected to heavy rains witnessed in the area, onlookers speculated the weather conditions could have led to the mishap. Residents of the wilayat told Times of Oman that it is not the first time they had witnessed such an incident.

They apprehended that the wadi flow swept away the body towards Dhaiqah Wadi where all the wadis of Tayeen meet. A reliable source at PACDA told Times of Oman that the search operation is ongoing. He added that the search would cover the Dhaiqah Dam after finishing search operations in all the wadis of the Wilayat of Dima Wa Al Tayeen. Cloud development over the Governorate of Musandam and Al Batinah is expected to bring light rain to the area in the next 48 hours, according to Directorate General of Meteorology and Air Navigation forecast.

 

Images – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

 

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Images – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

 

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Images – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

More Road Safety Articles Here  At My – http://www.bethesafedriver.com

My Road Safety Awareness Books

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Also http://www.bethesafedriver.com

Take Care! Drive Carefully!

Best Wishes and Regards,

Majid Al Suleimany

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Paak Ghaya!

http://thehrprofessional.wordpress.com/2010/10/03/paak-ghaya/

 Extracted from my http://www.thehrprofessional.wordpress.com  

Paak Ghaya!

Fruit A 

Images Rotten(Overripe)  Fruit – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

For those who do not know what it means, I know you are dying to let me tell you what it means, but have patience with me Dear Reader; because it is going to be clear in the next few sentences! I can assure you that it is Hindi, just in case you are wondering what it all means! And why not? After all, I have a great following in this group too!

You know those of us so-called Human Resources Professionals always say this thing – it is not the reasons given to you by a Staff who is leaving the establishment (mad house! Or one flew over the cuckoo’s nest!) That is valid and being more important but actually what was it that had prompted that person to start to look for another job in the first instance that is more important! Does not make any sense, or is the gist lost in its meanings? Let me explain.

In normal what they refer in Human Resources as an Exit Interview (let us ask you why you are leaving interview), the Staff may give a number of reasons why. For example the salary is higher being received in the new place. Perhaps and or fringe benefits and perks, or a higher more senior job even if sometimes there maybe no visible financial advantages per se (in some cases even losing out financially – but then you may be right in thinking that no ‘one is mad enough’ to do such a thing! You may be right too, but do not forget that there is a mad house out there too, and peoples are capable of doing the least and when expected syndromes too!). But then it is easy for us to judge as ‘outsiders’ and unless these things have happened to you or are happening to you now! Trust my word on it, I know I have been there too, in many times and too close for comfort either!

What I am trying to say here is this – as an establishment you need to find out what was it that had prompted that staff to apply outside in the first instance! It could be a small thing to the boss in charge and or to the establishment, but could be a major issue and or catastrophe to the Staff. For example when a Boss shouts and screams to a subordinate in front of his own peers and his own subordinates, what does this Boss expect? What do we have big rooms for Managers and Supervisors for? It is to use for privacy and discuss sensitive issues in the privacies of those rooms. Like a sceptic friend of mine would have remarked – The big rooms surely not for decoration, but for usage. He would go on to say – God gave you brains to use, and this too not for decorations! 

It isn’t the 100th blow that knocks a good man down. It’s the 99 that went before: This is why people leave organizations – Azim Premji. – WHY EMPLOYEES LEAVE ORGANISATIONS? – (much of this article is based from that article) unquote.

The article goes on – Every company normally faces one common problem of high employee turnout ratio. People are leaving the company for better pay, better profile or simply for just one reason’ pak gaya ! 

Why do experienced, professional and talented employees leave despite a top salary?

The answer lies in one of the largest studies undertaken by the Gallup Organization. The study surveyed over a million employees and 80,000 managers and was published in a book called First Break All the Rules.

It came up with this surprising finding: If you’re losing good people, look to their immediate supervisor. More than any other single reason, he is the reason people stay and thrive in an organization.  And he’s the reason why they quit, taking their knowledge, experience and contacts with them. Often, straight to the competition.

People leave Managers not Companies,” write the authors Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman. “So much money has been thrown at  the challenge of keeping good people – in the form of better pay, better  perks and better training – when, in the end, turnover is mostly  Manager  issue.”

If you have a turnover problem, look first to your Managers.   Are they driving people away?

Beyond a point, an employee’s primary need has less to do with money, and more to do with how he’s treated and how valued he feels. Much of this depends directly on the immediate manager. And yet, bad bosses seem to happen to good people everywhere..

A Fortune magazine survey some years ago found that nearly 75 per cent of employees have suffered at the hands of difficult superiors. You can leave one job to find – you guessed   it, another wolf in a pin-stripe suit in the next one.

Of all the workplace stressors, a bad boss is possibly the worst, directly impacting the emotional health and productivity of employees. HR Experts say that of all the abuses, employees find public humiliation the most intolerable. The first time, an employee may not leave, but a Thought has been planted…

The second time that thought gets strengthened.  The third time, he starts looking for another job.  When people cannot retort openly in anger, they do so by passive aggression. By digging their heels in and slowing down. By doing only what they are told to do and NO MORE. This is done by omitting to give the boss crucial and very essential information.

That could impact and seriously jeopardize an organization. Have you seen this in real life? A new staff joins and is highly keen and motivated. He seriously and genuinely cares and feels for the organization. At the risk of his own job (remember probation and can be terminated in a week’s notice at the least?) he speaks his mind in order to try to rectify, remedy and correct a situation. His peers look up at him in disdain, cynicism and even bordering contempt – in their hearts they say we have seen and heard these all over before (so what else is new?). In the end another (new) frustrated, de motivated, dehumanized Staff hits the dust! Another casualty figure to contend!

That is Paak Ghaya, or in Hindi – over ripe fruit, cannot be eaten anymore! 

It is said“If you work for a jerk, you basically want to get him into trouble.  (The sooner the better!) You don’t have your heart and soul in the job”. The day he leaves, there is a BIG CELEBRATION party the villain has gone, no more trouble, no more pain, no more suffering. Until the new Manager has come in ‘with a new broom sweeping better’ – unless and until that is he starts to behave like his old peer again (Remember Animal Farm?).

Different Managers can stress out employees in different ways – by being too controlling, too suspicious, too pushy, too critical, too manipulative (divide and conquer syndrome, even if it is the establishment that eventually suffers!) – but they forget that workers are not fixed assets, they are free agents. When this goes on too long, an employee will quit – often over seemingly trivial issue.

It isn’t the 100th blow that knocks a good man down. It’s the 99 that went before. And while it’s true that people leave jobs for all kinds of reasons- for better opportunities or for circumstantial reasons, many who leave would have stayed – had it not been for one man constantly telling them, as Arun’s boss did: “You are dispensable. I can find dozens like you.”

While it seems like there are plenty of other fish especially in today’s waters, consider for a moment the cost of losing a talented employee. There’s the cost of finding a replacement.

The cost of training the replacement. The cost of not having someone to do the job in the meantime. The loss of clients and contacts the person had with the industry. The loss of morale in co-workers. The loss of trade secrets this person may now share with others.

Plus, of course, the loss of the company’s reputation. Every person who leaves a   corporation then becomes its ambassador, for better or for worse.

We all know of large IT companies that people would love to join and large television companies few want to go near. In both cases, former employees have left to tell their tales. “Any company trying to compete must figure out a way to engage the mind of every employee,

Jack Welch of GE once said.   Much of a company’s value lies “between the ears of its employees”.  If it’s bleeding talent, it’s bleeding value.

Unfortunately, many senior executives busy traveling the world, signing new deals and developing a vision for the company, have little idea of what may be going on at home. That deep within an organization that otherwise does all the right things, one man could be driving its best people away.

Next time you as the Manager or Supervisor feel like screaming and shouting at that Staff of yours – THINK AGAIN. As I said before – God gave you brains to use, and this too not for decorations!

 

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By: 

Majid Said Nasser Al Suleimany

 

All My Active Websites!

All My Active Websites

 

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01 Books – 1 www.majidbooks.com
02 Books – 2 www.myown-ebooks.com
03 Books – 3 www.myownmajid.com
04 Columns – 1 www.betweenusonly.com
05 Columns – 2 www.majidall.com
06 Family / Personal 1 www.majidsuleimany.com
07 Family / Personal 2 www.majidalsuleimany.com
08 First Website www.alsuleimany.com
09 Opinion www.majidsn.com
10 Professional www.mas-trac.org
11 Road Safety Awareness www.bethesafedriver.com
12 Short Takes www.myshorttakes.com
13 Writing – 1 www.majidwrite.com
14 Writing – 2 www.mymajidwrite.com

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Majid Al Suleimany