One Minute Silence For – Between Us Only! Column

One Minute Silence For Between Us Only! Column

Goodbye; Between Us Only!

One Minute Silence – Please!

For those who have been closely following events, you may have noticed that the column has not been published for the last two weeks now. All the explanations are here in the website.

Somebody does not need to insult your intelligence to make you feel that you are no longer welcome – or wanted!

The East Africans also say – you do not need to choose your words rightly (ethically) if you have planned to insult someone in life! That is true, really!

They also say – do not cry if someone has refused you beans (mbaazi) – it just has reduced your gas (mishuuzi)  outtake!

Please offer a minute of silence for its death! If people like Mandela have died, what is Between Us Only?

Born on March 2001 and died December 2013 – 12 years later!

Wishing you all the very best! Take Care!

Citizen – Majid bin Said bin Nasser Al Suleimany

Muscat – Oman – December 12th 2013

All The Between Us Only! Books.

To Order Go Here – www.myownmajid.com

Please Read Also This – http://majidsn.com/2013/12/08/learning-from-mandela/ – More at www.majidsn.com

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  • I came to you with good advice – but you like not Good Advisors!Prophet Salah (Methu Salah) RA
  • Life cannot defeat a Writer who is in love with writing,  for life itself is a Writer’s love until death – Edna Ferber
  • If you would not be forgotten, as soon as you are dead, either write things worth reading or do things worth the writing – Benjamin Franklin
  • No need for revenge. just sit back and wait. Those who hurt you will eventually screw up themselves and if you are lucky, God will let you watch – Good Karma

This is Goodbye! Bye!

One day people will remember me – and people will search out and look out for my books – This I am very sure of!

Many Thanks!

Best Wishes and Regards – Majid Al Suleimany

Please Read Also This – http://majidsn.com/2013/12/08/learning-from-mandela/ – More at www.majidsn.com

Oman National Day Celebrations – Future Focus.

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Oman National Day Celebrations – Focus For The Future.

Congratulations to His Majesty Sultan Qaboos bin Said and the people of Oman on the auspicious occasion of the 43rd National Day Celebrations – November 18th 2013.

My Views For The Future

More Focus For The Future – Muscat Daily 19th November 2013 – Page 04: –

  • Creating more meaningful jobs for The Youth especially in the Private Sector
  • More focus on Occupational, Crafts and Vocational Training for Post Secondary      School leavers to make them suitable for employment in the Private Sector      jobs
  •  Career and Progression Plans to move more      Omanis into middle and top management jobs to take over from the      expatriates
  • More female as above in jobs – and equality representation in the sexes
  • More healthier living for all
  • More care and attention to the elderly and pensioners as globally increasing      percentages in the population
  •  Reduce the percentage expatriates to Omanis to reduce social and domestic problems
  • More quality produced local goods for local markets and for exports.
  • Raise more Safer Road Safety Awareness
  • More incentives for more Internal Tourism Projects
  • More flexibility and openness in Citizens’ situational rights and expressions trend to continue
  • Public Transport(Railways)  and Parking Facilities
  • Others

By Majid Al Suleimany

November 15th 2013 – Muscat – Sultanate of Oman

Morsi: A Question of Management?

Morsi: A Management Issue?

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Or more sinister forces at work and play?
• I live in a posh area – I have a big villa – I have a good job – I drive a posh car – and my children go to the best expensive school – But I simply have no freedom! – Demonstrating Woman Against Army Take Over to Al Jazeera TV
• Famous East African Saying – Those that destroy the homes of others – will have God Destroy their homes in return!
August 19, 2013

Outpoint – Before I start on the topic.

I will try my level best to keep this article simple and apolitical – though I am still trying hard to understand and comprehend how GCC countries like KSA and UAE had supported the ‘military coup’ in Egypt – and even after massacres of innocent Muslims too – and despite the fact – whether we like to accept it or not – and whether we like Muslim Brotherhood or not – and of a first time elected government under Morsi after years in Egypt under Mubarak et al. This fact cannot be denied under any circumstances.

If it is a question of removing an elected government because of ‘gross mistakes violations and errors of judgment ‘ – then one can imagine of a lot of military coups would possibly take place in a number of places – using the same terms and references – as plausible strong reason and excuse?

In my article – Episode 14 – ‘Advice To A New CEO’ – dated August 27, 2003 in Book One – Between Us Only! – and over 10 years ago- I had said – Quote – .

 The new CEO? Welcome Aboard! – …. But don’t change a thing! – The worst thing a new CEO can do is to sideline or marginalize those who have been actually running the establishment for many years (some very long plus 20 years!) and even before the CEO had joined. Key words are esteem, ethics, professionalism, esteem, respect and reciprocal good treatment!! And also leading by good examples and in leadership demonstrations.
DON’T CHANGE A THING! – In its October 2002 issue, Harvard Business Review – HBR (Ideas with impact), noted famous Management Magazine notes the following in one of its topics – New CEO, Welcome Aboard (But Don’t Change A Thing)” – some quotes: –
 “The folks at ……… were thrilled when they got a new CEO with fresh, bold ideas – until she started to act on them”
 (Old CEO to NEW) “Everyone here is in the slow lane. They are all wedded to the way things have always been done. You have to understand, this is a very old company. You may need to pull people along more slowly to make sure you don’t end up tearing the place apart”
 “She (New CEO) – if she is not clear with this team, she’ll be no better with the next. She should not make personnel (staff) changes until she has given the current team a chance.
This is a commonly held Management Concept for Success for the CEO – especially the new one!  The role of the Chief Executive Officer – including especially The New!

Refer to any Management expert or books on Management, the one fundamental advice that is always given to a new CEO or Official in joining an organisation, is never to ‘rock the boat’ on day one of joining! – However, good sincere and genuine your intentions may be!

In his book ‘7 habits of highly effective peoples’, Dr. Stephen Convey, a Management ‘guru’, says that in addition of being proactive and think win/win, ‘it is very important to seek first to understand and then to be understood’. Others are Begin with the end in mind; Put first things first; Synergize, and sharpen the sword (socially, spiritually, physically & mentally).
Other references and quotes –

‘It is impossible for anyone to perform well in these continually changing roles without help from his subordinates in the organisation – he needs to have a well – informed objective understanding and supportive sounding board with whom he can freely discuss his doubts, fears and aspirations’.
– Robert L. Katz ‘Skills of an Effective Administrator’ – Three Skills Approach (Technical Skill, Human Skill and Conceptual Skills).

‘The first duty – and the continuing responsibility of the Business Manager (CEO) are “to strive for the best possible economic results from the resources employed or available – by Peter F. Drucker – another Management guru.
Good Ideas – Bad Implementation Practices!

Where have we heard this one before? Many establishments, some of them international Conglomerates, have collapsed because a new CEO was installed who wanted to make fast, rapid and drastic changes, without first getting to know the establishment well and its peoples, and what made them tick.
Success may have seemed to come with immediate effects (with the usual ‘colourings’ of press and for coverage) but in the medium to long term, the consequences are detrimental to the healthy running of the establishment and in its eventual early collapse and demise.

The worst thing a new CEO can do is to sideline or marginalize those who have been actually running the establishment for many years (some very long plus 20 years!) and even before the CEO had joined. When you transgress such a group, you are not only asking for trouble, but also putting your own neck on the line (shooting oneself in the foot too!).

The resentment, antipathy, anger, fury, animosities, frustrations and disappointments felt by such peoples (maybe results not visible immediately) but eventually can cause havoc and disaster to the organisation.

Many CEOs do a fundamental (grave) error of judgement when they remove (enmasse especially) the ‘old guards’ and put in their place ‘new likeable faces of his own’ choice into positions of power and authority. Not only these old guards pretend and act to go along with the changes, but they sure take aim and target to ensure the ‘introduced changes’ are sabotaged and killed from within.

They do these carefully and viciously, because the least thing they want are to be found out and be caught in the process. The process is exacerbated when you have still in-fighting within this group too (some at even senior levels), but who will attempt to come together against the new CEO and his intended changes per se!

For the short span of time and duration, things may even seem to work with new creativity, ideas and innovation coming from those ‘replacing new bright younger brains’ – but eventually we are all human beings, and the fear and dread of what may turn up next gets the better of all of us!. This is especially when the new CEO keeps asking ‘for more and more’ ideas and innovations to keep him in the limelight and in coverage! It puts a lot of pressures on the work force, with the ‘bubble bursting’ in the final analysis.

The ‘new blood’ start to feel (as they are all human too) that if an ‘uncle’ or ‘elder relative or fellow worker’ was so easily sidelined and marginalized in his duties and in his responsibilities (he saw it too, perhaps they came to his office to ‘cry’ too), why the same cannot be matted out instead to them eventually and in the course of time.

This creates uncertainties, apprehensions and worries and instead of being a morale booster, actually turns up to be quite the opposite in results, outcome and in consequences.

The new CEO may find support and encouragement from the Board of Directors and in the Chairman, but when morale, motivation and performance and profits (for which results are all paramount oriented and based) fall, ‘heads will definitely roll, however, they liked you before!’

In this scenario, the CEO will be required to change his outlook, focus orientation and in pursuits. He has to do this immediately if he is to survive. Otherwise it will mean that he will need to ‘Update and Validate’ his CV in pursuit of other new job venue and opportunities – if any – especially if history will record his ‘killing off and collapsing’ an otherwise operation of a successful and profitable establishment (killing the goose that laid golden eggs) – be it that there were even a lot to be desired to be modified or changed in the old structure of the establishment.
Continued – I had said – It is also in Countries and in Politics!

These things do not only happen to establishments but even to countries (example recently in Iraq and in Peru – Article written August 2003.

This situation goes on to even to the highest office in some lands. A new President is elected by popular vote- he gets a popular rating. Greater percentages of the population have voted him in. So what is the first thing he does? He removes all those in top positions (early retirement is a good option!), and puts his crony friends in their places. He feels now confident that he has the support of all his friends.

He removes all the top brass professional Generals and puts his cronies in their places instead. History then proves the rest – one of his most reliable and trusted General ‘takes over the helm of leadership’. The man ends up in jail, or he is allowed to ‘abdicate’ if he is so lucky. The ‘cut outs’ professional but not trusted other Generals ‘shake their heads in sadness and disbelief – perhaps if they were still there, this would not have happened!

The General is a human too. If he saw his peers sidelined, what guarantee is there that it will not happen to him – especially in a disagreement or confrontation module with the boss!

In life we all go on to do the same things, at our own levels in life. As the CEO, we remove the assistants we think we cannot trust, or move them to positions of less significance but of grand newly designed titles – ‘Head of IT Development and Implementation’, or ‘Strategic Management Business Head’ (early retirement here too is a good option!).
‘Live Personal Examples’ per se!

In my life career, I had one Company Director who wanted to make drastic and rapid changes on day one he came in! As is my usual self, I always try to maintain a balance of being pragmatic and proactive vis-à-vis to follow formal instructions (for my next pay cheque), so I had the ‘guts and the audacity’ (catching the bull by its horns, so to speak!) and to tell him that these changes he wanted would not augur well with affected staff, especially local.

I had also cautioned him of the ‘consequences of making many changes rapidly and in a short tenure of time. It is not only peoples getting lost, but the antipathy, cynicism and the disenfranchise elements emanating from the ‘affected Staff’ per se.
Though initially he was taken back by this response from the good self, but to his credit – being an educated, proactive, and pragmatic and highly profile person, he was able to see my views and points, and more importantly the dire dangers and consequences that he wanted to drive us all through.

Some of my friends thought I was ‘naïve and a fool’ to risk my career (putting a rope around your own neck to hanged!). “You could have been sidelined / marginalised or even be terminated’, my good friends advised, ‘why bother? He wants it that way, just do it – it is his own funeral!

Not many senior peoples inhigh echelon positions take kindly to be “confronted” by those junior or lower to them, and these “brave and courageous’ peoples found too late that their careers were not only dented, but faced an early death. Early Retirement is what ‘the game is nowadays!’

This Director – we still correspond, at least at the end of the year. He keeps referring to me as ‘a friend’, but also as ‘a best example of a risk taker’ he ever knew for a while!

There is nothing so bad and damaging than frustrated staff that suffer in disdain and in quiet, frustration, rancour, bitterness and in apathy and in disappointments. When staff are ‘not healthy’ the organisation also suffers eventually. Productivity is affected. You can forget ideas of expansion; survival of the establishment is highly taxed and put to great risks, deprivation and in detriment.

The concepts of Change Management are in itself complex in that even the Management do not agree to each other on what is the right approach and perspective to ‘influence change’ in itself per se.

Recommendations.

It is essential and vital to get everyone on board when contemplating and formulating changes. The underlying factor is that the new CEO especially has to understand and appreciate that he is dealing with the most complex of his resources (albeit it being the most paramount and important one too).

It is critical and extreme too if these changes would incorporate drastic changes or reversals in peoples entrenched formal positions (worse in informal leadership positions!) or their continued existence in the Organisation, that the new CEO uses all his tact, interpersonal and managerial skills to see participation and involvement of all the staff (or majority) in these changes per se.

It is very important to make Staff feel that no particular polarization or group is being targeted in these changes, even if the intentions maybe good sincere and genuine, and this was ‘not in the plans’ per se!
My advice and counsel to CEOs and ‘the new man in Charge’ is that not many of our subordinates are ready to take a risk to tell you exactly what they think or feel – especially when they see very bad and raw treatment vetted out on the long serving staff.

It is not a question of just getting rid of only old staff who perhaps may be truly ‘transfixed and rigid in their outlooks and approaches, or even ‘dead wood’ for that matter.
It is a question of how you get to know the establishment well first, to get to know its social culture and its environment and modus operation, and how you tackle the issue and convince people.

Even armies if they are not convinced, they will surrender and let the enemy take over. We saw that even in Iraq just only recently! The same ‘convinced army’ will fight to its death in protecting and honouring those it is supposed to serve and protect. We have already seen examples of that recently.

The thing is called “tact” and the right and correct approach and how equitable, ethical and right approach and cohesion is taken.

Key words are esteem, ethics, professionalism, esteem, respect and reciprocal good treatment!! And also leading by examples and in demonstrations.

This is my (humble) advice to any CEO who wants to make a niche and name for himself, and to be acknowledged as a ‘successful CEO’ – and not a loser (and either be sidelined / marginalized or even eventually be jobless, what goes around, comes around!).

Remember you are the driver of the car, when your passengers are scared, they will not tell you of the obstacles you cannot see. You will only see after inadvertently you have hit them!

That is the worst-case scenario for any CEO! New or Old!

The rest is history on what had happened to Morsi. A lot of ‘Conspiracy Stories’ are now emerging as to why he was removed from power – including The Ethiopian Dam Link – The Israeli-Saudi link – and the usual of The West not wanting an ‘Islamic Government’ to succeed in Egypt – after The Turkey and Senegal experiences etc – and ‘refusing to accept ‘Democracy results’ in previously Algeria and Gaza.
And Morsi should have realised the sinister forces working against him – and who he was surrounded with. Phaorah’s Egypt. On a personal front – it was a big mistake to open his mistakes in his rambling 2 hours speech

Anyway, as I had promised in the beginning I will stop here – as my usual style in writing of ‘taking you up to the bridge – and then letting you decide if you want to cross it – or go back.

 

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Images – For and Against Morsi – For Demonstration Purposes Only!

This article is dedicated to the innocent lost lives and maimed ones in the ‘unneeded and unwanted called for’ massacres – instead of following our Religion and The Hadith in solving our own problems our own ways – by frank honest sincere genuine one-to-one – give-and-take – face2face discussions – and in making hard, difficult complex decisions for compromises, settlements and solutions.
Let us only hope and pray MB does not go underground – as Muslims (Arabs) lose confidence in Elections! Making Another Syria – the worst nightmare scenario!
May Allah God Guide us and Protect and Preserve us all from His Anger and Fury – Amin
With sincere and due apologies,
By:  Majid Al-Suleimany

 

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Crying Turkish President on The Massacres – The wording says – Do Not Cry, Mr. President!

August 19, 2013tion

P.S. I follow my Religion – and I do believe in Live and Let Live – Patience, Tolerat!ion, Peace and Harmony Always!

The Writer is a weekly Column Contributor in The Oman Observer Features under ‘Between Us Only’. He has published 10 books – more details here at http://www.myownmajid.com
He has worked for over 25 years as a Human Resources Professional in mainly Petroleum Development Oman (PDO). And a Management Expert, Consultant and Advisor for the past 12 years – now fully retired. He holds an MBA in International Management (UK).

Points To Ponder!

Points To Ponder!

 

August 13, 2013

 

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A                Young Marriages in Troubles!

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I was inquiring about one young couple with young children – that we know well – why they had not come to visit us this Eid – as they usually do! I was told – Have you not heard? Heard what? – I asked back!

Then they told me that this beautiful couple had divorced a few backs. It seems the main issues were mainly money related – each one building his and her own villa. The problems that there was so much concentration on ‘building a decent large villa’ that family living expenses and expenditures took a direct hit!

I read somewhere that internationally one of the major reasons of divorces was ‘money related’. It is very sad because these young children will be most affected by this divorce – because the innocent children will not understand and appreciate what has just happened – and how was it possible that the people that loved them this so much – hated each other so vehemently and disastrously – to go their different ways – just for money! Like I have said so many times before – it is the children that get most hit and affected in such cases!

We have still not learnt our lessons – despite all of our Religious Teachings, The Holy Book and The Islamic Hadith – that our lives on this earth are just a temporary phase – and a transition to a Greater World! It reminded me also of reading about The Great King Alexander Story – ‘I came to the world empty-handed – and I leave to my grave empty-handed! I go with my hands out in my coffin – and as I leave behind all my treasures and wealth – and cannot take it with me even!’

 

B                     Ants versus Us Humans!

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I was watching these ants in my villa garden in Qorum Heights- and as I was eating this chicken sandwich! A small piece of chicken had fallen on the floor – and who comes along at top speed but this small black ant! I watch intrigued as the ant starts pulling the piece towards what I expect to be its ant hill entrance! I was really intrigued in its unselfishness – and its determination to pull this ‘morsel’ to share with others – and even if it was almost three times its own size!

I was thinking aloud that if this was ‘a human being’ – it would first make sure it had a full feed of the morsel – or even keeping it for himself only! Yet here it was determined to give its full strength and abilities to share with others! As far as I could tell – it had not even taken a bite of the ‘morsel’ for itself – but had instead willed and determined to share – first and foremost – with others first!

Ants can teach us humans a lot of things. I respected this ant so much – and I just left it alone! I could not bring myself to harm it in anyway – even if I had tried! Soon other ants came to help the ant! I decided to leave then – because knowing us human beings – I would find the entrance – and kill and destroy all the ants!

This is a great achievement for the ants – when even your worst enemy has just but to admire you – and leave you alone to your fate – be it whatever it is!

Take Care!

By

Majid Al Suleimany

August 13, 2013

N.B. I would appreciate responses here or to majidsn@majidsuleimany.com if it is worth continuing posting these kind of articles here in view of ending of my Oman Daily Observer Columns?

Alternatively, maybe just closing down the sites?

Regards,

 

Majid Al Suleimany

August 14th 2013.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

International Coverages of My Books!

International Coverages of My Books!

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1                 Between Us Only! The Sequel – 3!

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2                 Arab Psychology Book Wins US Golden Seal Award – Psychology of Arab Management Thinking!

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3                 Good News / Great Books For Every Reader! – Trafford USA Publishing

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4                 A Cry For Help!

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http://myown-ebooks.com/2012/10/23/my-books-in-arab-management/

 

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5                 Being The Safe Driver! Behind The Wheel! The New Road Safety Book.                

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http://myownmajid.com/2013/05/14/kirkus-books-reviews-being-the-safe-driver/

http://myownmajid.com/2013/05/14/being-the-safe-driver/

http://myown-ebooks.com/2013/03/31/my-new-ebooks-are-now-also-in-kindle-and-kindle-amazon/

http://myown-ebooks.com/2013/03/27/accolades-being-the-safe-driver/

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http://myown-ebooks.com/2013/03/09/road-safety-book-release/

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6                 Between Us Only! Short Takes – 2!

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7                 Between Us Only! Books – New Series!

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8                           Books Ordering / Availability in Oman.

My New Books Are Now Available In Oman

May 4, 2013

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Price OMR 12 (Twelve)

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Also place orders here emails –

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B          Short Takes – 2! Between Us Only!

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C         The Sequel – 3! Between Us Only!

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D         My Previous Books  – Direct Orders

A Cry For Help! Context and Perspectives! Arabian Management Series.

Psychology of Arab Management Thinking!

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The Parody and The Distortion of Life!

The Humanity Absurdity!

The Parody and Distortion of Life!

I was watching the Television coverage news of refugees and the IDPs Internal Displaced People in more than three Refuge Centres tents in two continents – and the victims again being the same Arabs and Muslims! Human crimes against fellow human beings – the wanton destructions, the calamities, the decadence and the malaise!

The images show beautiful women crying and in desperation of how they were going to feed their families – whilst children being children – played as if nothing has at all changed in their lives – and as if still at home! Children being children also – and certainly making troubles and headaches to their parents and caretakers in the process!

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Images – Refugees Camp and Children

Sad that these same images of such beautiful women in these dire and difficult stages now in their lives – and some for certain for the first time and unexpected too – could have received standing ovations in fashion cat shows – if they had the opportunity to be there! People living in tents out in the cold – or even open places and like in cemeteries. With no food, water and protection the elements of sun, rain, wind and storms!

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Images – Wasted Lives in Camps!

In one of the incidents that stuck with me for ages – was this scene of a school teacher confronting a camera man and asking him to leave them alone – and just go away. He said profoundly to the camera man and interviewer – Leave us alone! We were just like you living normally in our own houses – running our own lives as best as we could – and never ever thought that the day would come when we would end as victims of man-made war and end as refugees! So stop filming – it can happen to you too one day! But the camera man had a story to tell – and would just not stop filming! That is humanity for you!

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Images – Refugees Camp and ChFamilies

And here we are in air conditioned houses, cars and offices – with full food bellies complaining of minor things and issues. Go and ask these peoples – and they are ready to swop places with you anytime – at least for the normality, peace and quiet! Including for their children too!

Many of them were just like us – until a few months back – when tragedy and misery struck! Human beings will never learn – because even if they have written the history books – they never sit down to read and understand them – which make us more worse than animals – or just like them! Because the gazelle will only start to run when the cheetah starts to chase them! You would have expected the gazelle to have started running or hiding as soon as the cheetah or lion had appeared on the scene!

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Images – Lost Innocent Faces!

This also applies to us! Because we say and do things to one another – and know well in advance what the end results and the consequences are going to be – but yet still do it! It is like an attachment and extension of harm and disaster that is is in-built into us – and instead of us being in control – we let these things control us instead!

My frank and honest assessment is that the so-called supposed to be religious people wanting to be politicians instead – and politicians wanting to be religious people too – the wear and tear – the contrasts and the contradictions of the two in the due process of doing all things! And giving opportunities to our adversaries to mock us – and do more harm to us!

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Images – Living Out in the Open!

Let us keep hoping and praying that sanity, pragmatism, common sense and a sense of fairness, expediency, ethics and principles will prevail – and Allah God Guide us to the right path and way – Amin.

ADDENDUM– For the fans and the readers’ information – the Sequel Books to the Between Us Only! series have now been released! Book – Short Takes – Two! and The Sequel – Three! Carry all my articles past 4 years!

From The Books Publishers – The books focus on the study of humanity, human needs, human interaction, society, and economics, as well as the other areas. In fact, the Author covers all socio-economic-political aspects of society, with an emphasis also on working environments such as office politics and dramas.

 The Author also addresses society as a whole, and the dire repercussions and consequences of bad ideas and thoughts that can be harmful to society in the broadest sense. Though many topics apply to Oman and GCC countries, the collection of columns organized by Majid Al Suleimany offer a universal appeal because, in his view, society and family are quite similar.

 According to the Author, “We have the same needs, wants, worries, concerns and fears – as well as what we like and do not like. This is because the human being is essentially the very same – regardless of race, creed, religion, color, ancestry, and ethnicity!”

 The book will encourage deep  soul-searching, deep self analysis, and a quest to make the world a better place for all. It has been penned directly from the heart of the Author to the reader. It carries many emotional personal family stories and encounters – including work experiences as a highly-qualified Human Resources Management Consultant.

 The book moves quickly, advancing without boundaries, and is careful never to get bogged down in politics. While critical, the writings are also very realistic and practical, and stress the need in society for change in a way that will foster more patience, tolerance, and understanding. More information here and at www.myown-ebooks.com

 Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Doing Bad Things To Others!

Between Us Only!

Doing Bad Things To Others!

Or What Goes Around; Comes Around!

My philosophy and outlook in life still remains the same – If you can help someone – then please do so! But if you cannot – then be straightforward and transparent – and say so! And explain why – and give possible advices and solutions – if you can! But most importantly – do not go for lies, deceit, double crossings – and stab at the back! Respect everyone first before others can respect you. And lead by examples – and not empty words and rhetoric – at whatever level in society that you are! There is also good in everyone – sometimes you may have to search deep to find even the trace of it!

And if you are planning to do good – do it whole not in parts – and certainly you do not choose which part to do – and which part to omit! Either you do it whole – or don’t! These are the basic bare necessities and truth of life – and living with others!

This week a relative called me saying that he had found someone from that distant land desperately looking for me as he was visiting Oman. He is not well off but he does not like to impose on others – and though he has many relatives here – he still prefers to stay in hotels. He says to me – That is the way I can keep in touch – and still remain with myself in respects!

When I left this person was hardly 12 – but now what I see in front of me is this man who looks over 50 – and though quite younger than me – definitely looks much older – with all his beard and hair all grey! With slow moving tired lazy dead-beat eyes and face – he says Hello to me distantly! He looks forlorn and dead beat tired! Some people are not Huggers and Kissers on The Cheeks – I am one of them – but after a second of wait and confusion – he hugs me! Of course the size he knew before has blossomed three times more – whilst he has remained forlorn and thin!

We talk about the old times – and in a way his mother is a sort of distant relative – and an aunt at most! He remembers how I took him and his brother to school for the first time – a frightening never to forget experience for the poor kids! He remembered the nice comforting words – and how that ‘really made a difference to us’ – especially later on – boys being boys – the few bullies around!

Then he told me about a Teacher ‘that had the most dislike, animosity and hatred towards you M – for no other reason except that I stood my ground – and allowed no one to breathe down my back and bully me. The Teacher was not used to this! Always students scurriedly hurried and shied from him – in fear and terror. He was like the Bulldozer – pushing down anything that stood in its path!

People do not know the real me – but frankly and honestly speaking – it was sad what he said next. That the poor man went bonkers and mad walking around the streets – started with his wife leaving him taking with her the kids. He ran his personal and social life the same way he dealt with his pupils – and life had caught up with him! He was also socially and relationships outcasted from the rest of his family – and ‘friends’ – if he had any that could stand him!

The East Africans have this expression – The True Woman comes out when her husband has become poor (lost his job!) – and The True Man when he (suddenly) becomes rich! And the person who digs a well will himself fall into it – or in other words – what goes around; comes around! A famous theme song in most of my writings, columns and books – www.myown-ebooks.com You can also read about whatever I have written in my website above!

In one of the places that I had worked long time ago – I – as being in Human Resources – made a Company Policy Proposal (CPP) in my official capacity for some changes proposals in the Company Human Resources Policies and Procedures Manual – that would have benefitted especially Retiring Omani Staff (and Their Families). Despite passing approval from my direct expatriate boss – it was vehemently rejected by the Top Omani Director – as ‘it would add costs to the company operating budget’ – even though the same facilities and services were provided to expatriates – but not the locals (then). The man was heard muttering exasperatedly – ‘This will only pass over my dead body!’ – and satirically – ‘tongue in cheek’ speaking – it nearly did – when this Director himself retired!

In writing my book Psychology of Arab Management Thinking – I quote many real examples and similar cases – and many Offices related – some life related – but people still never learn!

People should always remember that if you purposefully, willfully and evilly do bad things to others – it will haunt you – and come back to you! Especially if you do it to someone who has not done anything bad or against you – you will be punished before they bury you 6 feet deep in the ground – or cremate you! This is a certainty and a surety – and it may take time – but it will happen – if not to you directly but then those near you! Only you will be asking – that you have now conveniently forgotten – Why Me? Oh Lord – Why me? What have I done to deserve this?

What goes around; comes around! Take Care!

By Majid Al Suleimany

Posted at: www.majidall.com and at www.majidwrite.com

Press Release – A Cry For Help! Book

FYI 

http://www.prweb.com/releases/2012/11/prweb10077256.htm

 Majid Al Suleimany’s Exciting New Book is “A Cry for Help!”

 “A Cry for Help!” examines the management styles of Arabian Gulf Corporation Council countries

 

A frank, honest and open book exposing the increasing lack of ethics, principles, professionalism and tolerance in the office environment

Muscat, Oman (PRWEB) November 01, 2012

Muscat, Oman Author Majid Al Suleimany exposes the increasing extremism, fundamentalism and radicalization in management styles and employees’ receptions and reaction in his new book “A Cry for Help!” (published by Trafford Publishing)

With over 35 years of human resource experience in Oman and with the Gulf Cooperation Council countries, Al Suleimany digs deep into the Arab office environment. Suleimany spins “a frank, honest and open book exposing the increasing lack of ethics, principles, professionalism and tolerance in the office environment.”

“A Cry for Help!” focuses on the particular type of management that is being used in the Arab workplace while explaining the context and perspectives in the work environment. He goes on to explain what is peculiar, special, or particular to that work in the context of, and in comparison to, management styles of other nations.

About the Author

Majid Al Suleimany resides in Oman with his wife and four children. He has published four other books: “Psychology of Arab management!,” “The Sequel – Between Us Only!,” “Short Takes – Between Us Only!” and “Between Us Only! Book One.” He has two others in production: “Between Us Only! The Sequel Three” and “Behind the Wheel!” Al Suleimany is also a columnist for The Oman Daily Observer. He has worked in management, human resources and as a consultant for over 35 years in Oman.

Trafford Publishing, an Author Solutions, Inc. author services imprint, was the first publisher in the world to offer an “on-demand publishing service,” and has led the independent publishing revolution since its establishment in 1995. Trafford was also one of the earliest publishers to utilize the Internet for selling books. More than 10,000 authors from over 120 countries have utilized Trafford’s experience for self publishing their books. For more information about Trafford Publishing, or to publish your book

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Best Wishes and Regards,

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Best  Wishes and Regards,

 Majid Al Suleimany

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