For Sunday – April 14th 2013
Between Us Only!
Bad Hearts At Work!
Accepted that it is quite unfair and unethical to generalise some life issues and aspects – but there is nothing that shakes me to my very foundation and breaks me into smithereens – than to find this thing as the on-going in thing nowadays especially! That is supposed to be so-called ‘some observing and religious people’ having the most mean, envious, jealous and bad hearts that you can ever find on the face of the earth!
Thus making just a mockery and façade of their practices and as being completely irrelevant and different to the real truth and reality! Give me an unobserving drunk but yet who has a good clean heart any day to these said individuals! You may well say that I am getting old and over sensitised – perhaps with bad experiences I have even become bitter, cynical and sceptical even – but if we real soul search and analyse ourselves – I think many people would agree with my sentiments and feelings here.
Of course there would be some that would say – you have said it all before – so what else is new? Move on – let things be! You can simply never change some – unless they really need and call out for help! A good friend of mine even cautioned me that you are now becoming like those old type of records (18 and 43 rpm) that have been played for long repeatedly – and the music that comes out – unalike the new CD gadgets – of ‘losing the original touch’! Forget it – you have done your bit! Give us new topics – or move along!
Do people remember your personal sacrifices in order to see there are ethics, professionalism and transparencies – justice and fairness – at the work front? Not at all! The same people that you made sacrifices to are now teasing and talking about you behind your back! Just wasted efforts – wasted dedications and loyalties only! No one bothers to acknowledge – or to remember! If you are looking for reward or acknowledgement – then get it from The Good Lord only – and from no one else – family, relatives and friends included!
Frankly, I can recall real live examples that I had encountered in my career life. Both deal with expatriates and as I came into the Companies. In both cases, the complaints were against in one a Very Senior Manager (my direct local boss!) and where they had complained to even the CEO- but nothing had happened. They thought my coming in ‘would solve their problem’. In their words – you look like a person that one can talk to’ – unalike the rest! The complaint was the Top Guy making ‘continuous very nasty racialist jokes’ on one ethnic expatriate group. The joke had lost its ‘original touch and taste’ and was now just annoying and upsetting them intensely!
The other was how Junior Expatriates were treated by The Senior Management vis-à-vis their contracts, renewals and terminations.- unalike the more senior ones! Please keep remembering the point that I was new and on a temporary contract in both cases. Not on full time contract basis. Despite all odds against me – I was able to solve both the problems despite these. That is what distinguishes a real competent professional ethical HR from the rest of the crowd. So whilst it is so easy to judge others and go by heresay – it is important to do your job in HR as being ‘the Company’s Conscience Keeper’! Both incidents are in my Arab Management books including many others too! My website www.myown-ebooks.com
All Images For Demonstration Purposes Only!
It seems to be the in-fashion thing nowadays that the more bad things you do to others the more up career-wise and rewards you get nowadays. That is why people like us would always suffer. But I am afraid and scared of my Allah SWT God always – even if I remain unremembered and forgotten – and to rub salt into the wound – ridiculed and poked fun at!
This article is dedicated to one great high profile lady – whom I really respect and admire – and whose husband had died recently from complications of being diabetic. May Allah God give you patience and forbearance in this tragedy and May Allah God rest his soul in eternal peace in this world and the next – take him away from the punishment of the grave – and open the doors of the highest heavens for him – Amin
You will forgive me lady F – I really had tried to get him the job – so he could come back to Oman and be with you in his last few years before dying – but it was not left for me alone to make the job offer – though he had a better job offer in the same profession in the other GCC country! What more can I say now?
By Majid Al Suleimany
Writing is the only profession where no one considers you ridiculous if you earn no money. Jules Renard